Two years ago, my husband and I gave our 14 year old son a cell phone for his birthday.
He was pretty convinced that he was the last living person to not have the ability to text.
His phone was a fairly basic pre-paid phone that could text and make phone calls, but little else.
Before we gave him the phone, we created a teenage cell phone contract.
That teen cell phone contract has been downloaded, shared and viewed by hundreds of thousands of people,
and {though I promise I am not bitter}
I'm pretty sure it's even been copied and passed off as their own
{or been the source of "inspiration"}
for plenty more teenage cell phone contracts.
One may have even been picked up by the Huffington Post.
Again, I'm not bitter.
It's totally fine!
I think the best thing we can do as parents of teens is to parent intentionally.
I think the best thing we can do as parents of teens is to parent intentionally.
Know what you are up against and don't just assume that your children know the unspoken rules.
As parents, we thought that with just two short years at home left,
we would allow our son to have a smartphone for his 16th birthday.
He needs to learn how to guide himself around the wild world of the internet,
with our help and guidance of course.
Which is why you will find the updated teenage cell phone contract below.
Our son can no longer just text and call with his phone,
He can e-mail, search the web, download apps, take videos and so much more.
This is the contract that we have agreed on and will follow.
This contract fits our family.
Feel free to use what works for yours and change what doesn't.
But as always, please give credit where credit is due.
If you want to copy this and spread it out to every student in your school,
please do, just reference my blog and where the parents can find it.
If you want to write your own article about cell phones and teenagers, that's great! We need more parent friendly articles to help navigate this technology saturated generation, just link back to me when you use my information.
I know that having a cell
phone to use is a privilege. I understand that my parents love me and want to
keep me safe. My parents respect that I am becoming a young adult and want the
privilege of having the use of a cell phone. With that in mind, I agree that:
1.
My cell phone must be turned off by my bedtime
and placed in an agreed upon location downstairs. It is my responsibility to be sure the cell
phone is being charged when necessary.
2.
During family
meals, my cell phone will be turned off or silenced and in my pocket or placed
away from the table. I will not check
texts or take calls during meal time.
3.
I will practice
proper etiquette when using my cell phone in
public places, and be conscious of how my usage affects those around me. My phone will be turned off or silenced when I
am in church, restaurants, or other quiet settings, and I will not place or
take texts or calls during those times.
4.
I understand that
having a cell phone is a means of communication, and is not a replacement for
actual face to face interaction with my friends and family members. Therefore, when I am with others, I will make
the people I am with my priority.
5.
I am responsible
for knowing where my cell phone is and for keeping it in good working
condition.
6.
I will obey all
rules my school has regarding cell phone usage on school grounds.
7.
I will never text
while driving, and will not ride in a car with someone who does.
8.
I will not use my cell phone to take pictures or
video of nudity, violence or other unlawful activity.
9.
I will not use my
cell phone for malicious purposes, i.e. bullying, spreading rumors/gossip, etc,
nor will I send or forward text messages, pictures, or videos that are vulgar,
obscene, violent, or sexual in nature. I
understand that such things are both highly inappropriate and potentially
illegal.
10. I
am responsible for ensuring that my internet usage and that the content and
apps on my phone comply with the standards of appropriateness set forth by my
parents. In addition, I will request
permission before downloading any communication or social media related apps.
11. I will alert my parents if I receive suspicious or
alarming phone calls or text messages.
12. I will alert my parents if I am being harassed by
someone via my cell phone.
13. I
understand that my parents can go through the contents of my phone at any time,
with or without my knowledge. I agree to
surrender my cell phone immediately to my parents if asked. I will not delete my texting history without
permission, and I will fully cooperate in showing my parents the contents of my
cell phone, including contacts, pictures, videos, text messages, etc, stored
within.
14. I
will always respond to my mom or dad’s texts/calls as soon as possible in the
given situation.
15. I
understand that I do not have unlimited calling and that each call over the
limit is charged by the minute. I am
accountable for my call usage, and am responsible for any overage fees.
16. I
understand that I am required to manage my time in such a way that my phone
usage doesn’t interfere with my responsibilities, and that my phone may be
taken away for failing to complete school assignments or not maintaining a
sufficient grade point average, as defined by my parents.
17. I understand that my cell phone may be taken away for
disrespectful or disobedient behavior, including (but not limited to) back
talking, inappropriate sibling interactions (i.e. fighting, hitting, name
calling, etc.), and failure to complete responsibilities at home when asked or
required.
18. I
understand that failure to follow and respect any of these rules can result in
the loss of my cell phone for any length of time determined by my parents.
If you would like to request a copy of your own, please click on the Teen Smartphone Cell Phone Contract heading above. It will direct you to a sign up. Once you enter your e-mail, you will receive the contract.
If you would like to request a copy of your own, please click on the Teen Smartphone Cell Phone Contract heading above. It will direct you to a sign up. Once you enter your e-mail, you will receive the contract.
5 comments
I wrote one for my tween! It is so important to have this conversation with your kids about what is acceptable and what is not.
This is still the best cell phone contract around!
This is still the best cell phone contract around!
Thank you Rachel!! We have communicated all these points with our daughter regarding her smart phone, but to have them all listed in a contract that she can sign is exactly what we needed.
My kids are 25 & 21 now...I wish I had thought of this when they first started using cellphones!
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